Joy in the midst of sorrow

I was really blessed to attend Jan’s memorial service and post-service party. It was great to meet some of her friends and family. I am thankful to have like-hearted people to mourn with and of course Jan’s grandkids are always a delight. Thank you to Matt, Stephanie, and Joe for arranging and sharing your lives, homes and families with me.


Detail of Services

We continued to be humbled by the response we get from our post’s and hope you  all will be able to celebrate with us at one of the following events.  One thing our mom made clear was that in the end she wanted a party that her friends and family could celebrate her life.  As you all know, our mom had a special spot in her heart for children so her funeral reception will be child friendly!

  • Viewing: Friday June 29th, 1pm – 2pm
  • Hennessey Valley
  • 1315 North Pines, Spokane Valley

We have had a few people that wanted to see mom, so we have arranged a short viewing.  Mom did not want to be embalmed, so we are sorry for the late notice, but in this case, time is of the essence.

  • Rosary: Monday July 2nd, 7pm
  • Hennessey North Division
  • 2203 North Division Street, Spokane
  • Mass: Tuesday July 3rd, 3pm
  • St. Mary’s Catholic church
  • 304 South Adams Rd, Spokane Valley
  • Reception Following Mass: Tuesday July 3rd, Approx. 4pm
  • Liberty Lake
  • 24859 E. Ludlow Ave, Liberty Lake

Final Request: For all of you who will be able to come to one of the events above we request you bring a copy of any photos that especially remind you of Jan.  It is these images that will continue to remind us how many lives she has touched over her years.

Thank you all so much for your support and hope we see you over the next few days.

Love, Joey

“Oh, The Places You Will Go”

“Oh, The Places You Will Go”

I have the blessing to get to share with all of you that have followed this blog from the beginning, that our mom, Jan Frank, has been called back to her heavenly father.  As always in death it is bittersweet.  The people she leaves behind will miss her with every day that goes by, we will miss her smile, her wisdom, her hugs and mostly her passion for life and family.  But for her she is reunited with her parents and the siblings that went before her.

Mom spent her last 20 years preparing for her retirement, she worked hard, saved every penny so that she could spend her golden years traveling with and to all her grandkids.  Though we will miss these travels with her by our side, she will most definitely be with us in every step, and in her new life we can only imagine the places she will go.

Mom, I know you are watching over me as I type this post and smile with pride over the family you have created.  Matthew, Stephanie and I pray that you will guide us through our days and that we will be able to lead and live the kind of life you did.  WE LOVE YOU!

Love, Joey

In His embrace

It is Sunday afternoon and the clouds are scattered across a beautiful blue eastern Washington sky. This is how I remember my childhood. It is interesting to me that my memories of childhood are mostly shrouded in this wonderful blue sky.   I don’t think that I have this feeling because I enjoyed more sunny days than most, I now know just how hard my mom worked to make sure that my life was filled with sun (on the inside and out). 

I was not an easy kid and I am blessed to have had her for my mother, nobody would have blamed her for shipping me off to some other family to raise.  Over the past 9 months I have realized even more, just how many lives mom made brighter. It is humbling to me see read your comments, see your letters and to bear witness to how much my mom meant to each of you. 

With that in mind i want to let all of you know that mom has taken a turn for the worse and is no longer eating or drinking.  She is comfortable and surrounded by her friends and family. Thank you again for all of your support during this difficult time, it has meant a lot to all of us. 


Back in Spokane!

As you can see by the pictures, Jan is back in Spokane and enjoying some time with the grandkids.  Mom has chosen to finish out her fight with cancer in Spokane and is currently living in at the Life Care Center skilled nursing facility in Post Falls, Idaho.  Depending on how mom feels over the next few days she may not be at this facility very long.


Please pass this message along to others you know who love and care for Jan. Thank you all for your continued support.

Jan with youngest grandson David James Frank

— Jan with Stephanie and youngest granddaughter Maira Grace Frank

Mother’s Day (by Jane)

We had the privilege of spending Mother’s Day with three generations of Jan’s family. As I sat across the table from Jan and her kids, it struck me that what used to be routine is now precious: enjoying a meal all together. I caught this picture of Joe, Matt, Jan, and Stephanie:

I’ve known Jan for about two decades and have seen her care and love for my sister (Matt’s wife) and their family. When Delphine and Matt would go out-of-town, Jan could handle four young grandkids all on her own, an ability she likely acquired from raising three children on her own for many years.

Jan, you’ve obviously done a terrific job as a mother and grandmother, and I’m blessed to witness your legacy in the lives of your family.

Love, Jane

From Jan

As dictated by Jan:

Thank you to everyone who has responded. Your thoughts and words do not go unnoticed. Thank you for taking the time to share your care and love.

I can’t believe I showed Karin how to do a novena. I don’t remember teaching Karin how to do a novena but I’m glad she remembered.

On the way home

It is with some regret but mostly a sense that we have done all that we can that I write this post.

Mom was admitted back to the UW last Thursday with increasing pain levels that we could no long control out of the hospital. This came just as we were beginning a last ditch effort with an aggressive chemo therapy treatment.

We are not sure if the chemo has worked yet or not but Mom has made the difficult decision not to continue any further treatments.  Mom has been an epic fighter for the past 8 months, she has been in near constant pain, been poked, jabbed, stabbed and radiated more than any person ever should.  During that entire time there was not a day that went by that she did not tell somebody they looked nice, said ‘thank you’ for something that was given to her, or just smiled at something funny.  But mom has decided that she simply does not have the energy nor the will to fight any further when the final outcome now seems certain and it is only a matter of time.

With that in mind we are going to be moving Mom back to Spokane this weekend.  If you happen to be in the vicinity of I-90 sometime on Saturday or Sunday and you see a big Cadillac Escalade rolling in an entourage of cars, that will be us.  Mom wants to spend the time that she has left surrounded by her friends and family.  We don’t know exactly where she is going to live yet, when we do we will post it here and email it around to all of you.  Please take the time to go and visit, Mom’s time left with us is now numbered in days and weeks and she would love to see you.

Peace and Love to you all,

Matthew, Stephanie and Joe

Enjoying The Sun

I could not be more happy enjoying this memorial day weekend with my mom. The attached picture was taken on the deck of the Mirabella. The sun instantly made mom feel better and like I tell everyone, there is not a better place to be than Seattle on a sunny day. It has been tough few days for mom. Due to the Myeloma the calcium in her blood is causing her a quite a bit of pain. With the increased pain, mom has been admitted into the UW hospital where she is getting more concentrated care from her Oncologist. We hope to have some better information to share over the next few days, but for now we are all enjoying every moment we can with mom.

Two-weeks in Spokane

I’ll be leaving 4/9/2012 for Spokane! I’ll return to Seattle 4/22/12. I’m hoping to connect with many while I’m home. I have finished up another treatment this afternoon. – am improving daily. I am now walking, consistently, without my walker and putting more time between doses of pain med. Which keeps my mind clear and less naps. Tomorrow is water aerobics at 8:45 so hopefully I can include that as my regular PT work out. A few acronyms (for HS/EHS staff) AL = assisted living, PT = physical therapy.